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Advisory: Although homosexual activity between consenting adult males remains technically illegal in Sri Lanka (vestiges of antiquated 1883 colonial anti-sodomy laws), gays are more visible than ever in culture, politics and local sidewalk cafés. With India now re-assessing the anti-gay strictures of their former colonial masters, signs are hopeful that peaceful Sri Lanka will follow. Lesbianism was not mentioned in law until 1995 when a bunch of men in government criminalized sex between women as "sadism." Local activists are working to decriminalize private homosexual activities enjoyed by more than one million Utopians in Sri Lanka.

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General Information


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Sri Lanka's First Gay Pride Celebration.


Organizations

  • Companions on a Journey
      46/50 Robert E Gunawardena Mawatha, Colombo 6, (94-11) 485-1535, email. An exclusively LGBT organization founded in 1995 and focusing their work in three main areas: advocacy for protection of rights of LGBT people and decriminalisation of consenting adult homosexuality; networking; and providing peer based outreach services. They operate two drop-in centers in Colombo and Kandy. In addition, they conduct film screenings, host reading room facilities and social get-togethers. They also provide peer counseling, STI/HIV testing and treatment and provide free condoms and information on STIs/HIV through peer outreach workers.
  • EQUAL GROUND
      Colombo, +94-11-567-9766, 251-2977, email. Focusing on the human rights of Sri Lanka's LGBTIQ communities. They fight for the equitable status of all sexual orientations and gender identities and to eliminate the physical, emotional, spiritual and psychological abuse stemming from strict interpretations of gender and sexuality. They also offer a phone counseling service as well, on either phone line, and regularly hold activities for LB women and travelers are welcome to call about activities for the LGBTIQ community and LB women. They host an annual event called Women On Top to celebrate International Women's Day. They hosted and facilitated the first South Asian LB women's Conference in Sri Lanka. They also have women-only extracurricular activities such as open house, dancing, etc. EQUAL GROUND is the convening organisation PRIDE in Sri Lanka and is generally in June each year with dates posted on their website a few months in advance.


Travel Services

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    Pink Escapes UTOPIA VERIFIED AUG 2013
      Email, +91 999-000-3043. Gay-owned, straight-friendly luxury and bespoke travel planners. They will show you Sri Lanka's splendors in style, with a well-rounded and unforgettable itinerary. Their insider connections offer enthralling opportunities to meet like-minded members from the local community, spend time with a talented selection of staff, experience great hospitality and get invited to private events that are not typically available to the everyday traveler. Putting together a Signature Dream Journey for you is their passion, whether you fancy a private break, desire a passionate surprise for your partner, bonding with friends, or traveling with your family. Ask them to design a wedding or vow renewal. Matchless care based on your personal interests and travel preferences. Utopia Member Discount

  • Bawa's Secret Journey UTOPIA VERIFIED JUN 2014
      +94 777-660-120, email. Discover Sri Lanka's hidden rainbow history with local experts. Visit the estates of the famous brothers, Bevis and Geoffrey Bawa. Bevis' estate, Brief, which set the trend for modern Asian gardens, is packed with erotic art, sculpture, and naughty in-jokes by Australian artist Donald Friend. Geoffrey, Sri Lanka's most famous modernist architect, has major projects across the island. Drop flowers off at the graves of futurist, Arthur C. Clarke, and his Sri Lankan "only perfect friend of a lifetime." Marvel at Lionel Wendt's seductive photographs, years ahead of their time. Visit Sri Lanka's most eminent painter of male nudes. During your journey, retreat to your suite at the modern tropical garden oasis, Dickman Resort.
  • Kulansa UTOPIAN VERIFIED JUN 2014
      Email, +94-7-1869-7942. Countrywide tour and travel arrangements from understanding and capable staff. Gay-friendly. Utopia Member Discount

      Comments from Utopians:

      "Kulansa could not have provided a better guide. Steven listened to our wishes, was patient, sincere, helpful, funny and a good driver. He loves his country and knows his way around. He drove us on a round trip from Andurhadupura, Siguriya, Kandy, Ella, Yalla National park and Galle. We saw wonderful nature, ancient and more recent history, colorful people, traditional ceremonies. Steven showed us daily life. We ate where the locals eat, he showed us places where few tourists go and we were even invited to a bbq with his friends at a lake in the forest. Everything was organised easily and according to our wishes. We had a splendid time!" -- Eric and Sebastian (Netherlands), Jun 20, 2014

      "I contacted Steven from Kulansa from the link on the Utopia website asking for a 7-day tour of Sri lanka in April/May 2014. He responded quickly and efficiently, including various tour options and clear pricing. He met us as promised and picked us up from our hotel. Steven is a calm, experienced driver who is chatty and funny and engaging. We had the trip of our lives and were both exhausted at the end having done so much; seeing Andurhadupura, Sigiriya, Kandy, Ella, Yalla and Galle with loads in between. Steven is flexible with itinerary, plans events you would never think of or are not in the guidebooks: we both fell in love with Sri Lanka, thanks to Steven and are planning a trip with Kulansa again next year." -- Daniel & Miles (UK), May 12, 2014

      "My husband and I spent part of our honeymoon in Sri Lanka and chose to hire Kulansa partly because of the good recommendations at Utopia. And we were not disappointed. Steven was charming, smiling and always in a good mood and he has a great passion for Sri Lanka and taking good care of his guests. He suggested a route for our 7-day trip but was very flexible when we suggested some changes - also during our trip. He quickly picked up our preferences and started to skip some sites and added more local food places when he saw what we liked. He has good insight and info about Sri Lanka and the gay places in Negombo. Steven's English is great. The car was first class and Steven has good driving skills. We can highly recommend Steven and Kulansa." -- HappyDane, Apr 9, 2014

      "We spent almost two weeks traveling with Kulansa. Steven was outstanding. The whole experience was even better than we had expected. He is knowledgeable, considerate and has a generous spirit. He went out of his way to make our trip memorable. His flexibility, sense of humour and efficiency was greated appreciated." -- BrizBoy, Nov 7, 2013

      "We used the service to travel from Colombo to Galle and were extremely satisfied about the seriousness of this company. The car was of first class quality and insurance was taken care of for the passengers. On the way Steven proposed some very interesting places to visit. We also used them for the return from Galle to the airport." -- Ronald, Nov 2, 2013

      "Just wrapped up my 2nd visit to amazing Sri Lanka - once again I used the services of Kulansa. Perfect. A great product, safe driver, spotless vehicle, conversations that knew no bounds - I come away with real local knowledge, cultural awareness and a true understanding of how this amazing nation works. Steven was genuine, honest and - importantly for me - adaptable. I want a train - he books a train, I want 5-star - I get 5-star, I want crazy nightlife - it can all be arranged. Kulansa - its the way to go!" -- Daniel, Oct 9, 2013

      "I contacted Kulansa for an 8-day tour with special requests. Steven did a great job planning the tour and made all the arrangements! Lal was a great driver and guide. He knew the best places to stop and visit! Had a great tour!" -- Justinwilson, Sep 27, 2013

      "I hired Steven for an 8-day tour of south and southwest Sri Lanka last month. It proved a tour of immense variety and exposure to Sri Lankan life. Steven put together a constant stream of cultural events, activities and engagement with local people. This was in so small measure due to his refined organisation skills, gentle humour and respectful attention to detail. I would unhesitatingly recommend Steven as a guide you can rely on and learn from. I left the country spellbound and will return." -- John S. (Ireland), Sep 13, 2013

  • Mai Globe Travels UTOPIAN VERIFIED JUN 2014
      65 International Buddhist Center Rd, +94 77-254-5623, email. Gay and lesbian-friendly travel services with international staff. They offer customized tours from adventure to culture, with extensive knowledge of the country. They are passionate about trekking, horse riding, and love to find new places to introduce. Large list of boutique hotels to offer and we plenty of activities to provide the best experience of Sri Lanka. They can speak English, French, German, and Japanese. Utopia Member Discount
  • The Ocean Pearl UTOPIA VERIFIED APR 2014
      North Pallansena, +94 77-338-3141, email. Private transportation with a comfortable and spacious aircon car. Your safety and comfort is important to their driver. He will show you Sri Lanka through the eyes of the locals. He is fluent in english. Like most Sri Lankan people, his extroverted and caring personality will make you feel like you are hanging out with a friend. Bidget prices on tours and one day excursions, and airport transfers. Private car by day or hour. Utopia Member Discount
  • Serene Journeys UTOPIA VERIFIED FEB 2014
      +91 987-142-5455, email. Gay-owned travel services to Sri Lanka, Nepal, India, Turkey and Southeast Asia. Programs are tailored to fit each traveler, right down to the amount of spice in your food. Their mission, whether creating a complete itinerary or making arrangements in a specific destination, is simple: to make sure their guests have the best possible travel experience customized to their lifestyle, interests, and budget.
  • Sri Lanka Trekking Nature Holidays
      Email. A small, gay and lesbian-friendly, family-managed tour organization run by an experienced trekking guide and holiday organizer. See real Sri Lanka. Experience panoramic mountain views, natural rain forests, grasslands, tea plantations, paddy fields, scrub jungles, village life, flora and fauna - all in a one day walk. Get to know locals and to take in all that Mother Nature has to offer. The trekking grade is gentle/moderate. They organize the ground arrangements. They try to steer away from the places visited by everyday tourists. Utopia Member Discount
  • SriLanka Tours
      Email. Hotel bookings, tour and vacation planning, plus all types of tourism related activities in Sri Lanka. Gay and lesbian-friendly. Utopia Member Discount



Alankuda

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Accommodations

    Click here for Alankuda hotels and accommodations.



BENTOTA

Popular Spots

Attractions

      Located on the coast, about halfway between Colombo and the spectacular heritage city of Galle, are two of the island's do-not-miss wonders: the garden estates of two of Sri Lanka's most famous gay luminaries, the Bawa brothers. Geoffrey Bawa is perhaps the nation's most famous modern architect, whose many projects combine both Ceylonese and colonial traditions with an environment-sensitive modernist flare (his former Colombo offices are open to the public in their current incarnation as The Gallery Café, see under Shops in Colombo).

      Brief UTOPIA VERIFIED JUL 2012
        +94 34-428-7056. While overshadowed by his brother Geoffrey's grand estate, Lunuganga, Bevis Bawa's private pleasure gardens, dubbed Brief, are less sterile, more sensual, and filled with wonder and gay in-jokes at nearly every turn. These gardens are the inspiration and model for the tropical landscaping craze visible everywhere now around Southeast Asia. Assisted by his live-in guest, gay Australian artist Donald Friend, Bevis filled his Eden with naughty and provocative sculptures and a huge collection of drawing, painting, sculpture and photography, including many male nudes, still on display (though sadly decaying), by some of Asia's most renowned artists. Enter through gates whose priapic bulges are, simultaneously, the noses of bearded masks (see drawing below). Turn a corner on your garden walk and a leering goat wearing a tri-cornered hat emerges from the flowering foliage. Through the moon gate is a plunge pool being filled in an endless arc from the healthy spout of an athletic youth. Well-placed moss cleverly mimics pubic hair on other well-hung torsos. An ornate full-length mirror is perfectly positioned to reflect the more intimate landscape of the open air showers. Sit on the lap of a sleeping, naked young man etched into a concrete bench by Friend. Fertile imagination is at play everywhere: from walls of translucent glass bottles, monstera leaves pressed into ceiling plaster, handmade tiles, furniture, fabrics, glorious murals, life-size nude male lamps, on and on. Before Friend left for fame in Bali in the late 60s, the modern Asian house and garden had been invented here.

        "The many sight-seeing heads
        who examined his floral beds
        tried to peek in his bedrooms too
        for more singular sights to view.
        One lady was heard to remark:
        ‘With such a luxuriant park
        you’d think he'd turn a new leaf,
        this unnatural Bawa of Brief!’

        -- from The Bawa of Brief by James Broughton

    • Lunuganga
        +94 34-428-7056. Geoffrey Bawa's vast estate, gardens and lagoon are open for lunch (Sri Lankan cuisine), tea and guided tours by appointment.



COLOMBO / KOLAMBA -- area code (94-1)

General Information

    Population is over 650,000 (that's about 26,000 Utopians).


Popular Spots

Discos

    • Lush (mixed)
        Gays frequent this happening night spot.


Massage and Spas

      THE SPA Colombo UTOPIA VERIFIED OCT 2013
        32A Horton Place, Colombo 7, 077-038-9895, email. THE SPA has opened this oasis in Cinnamon Gardens, in the heart of Colombo. Stone, water and bamboo create a cool and refreshing place in which to escape, rejuvenate and enjoy treatments from their professional and friendly male staff. Facilities include a jacuzzi, Swedish sauna, and private therapy rooms with bathrooms. They offer full-body relaxation massage as well as reflexology, hypnotherapy, and psychotherapy treatments. They also have Pamper Packages for couples and weight loss therapies. Their sister venue, THE SPA Ahangama (see listing in Galle section) is located in the south and offers similar treatments in a private garden setting with pool and cabana. Both spas offer snacks and nutritious energy drinks. Utopia Member Discount


Meeting Places

    • Middle class, educated gays meet online, especially on GayRomeo, LankaLove, and Grindr. UTOPIA VERIFIED JUL 2012
    • Colombo Fort
        Facilities in the CTB government bus stand and underground. Underground facilities in the Fort area on York St. If you are coming up York St from the Hilton it is across from the first corner of the Cargill's building (the old red brick building). Look for a stairway going down from the side walk with men's symbol. Plenty of guys just standing around looking for fun.
    • Colombo Municipal Council Public Library
        Both facilities. Wait for an invitation. Best times: 9:30-10:30am, 1:30-3pm and 5-6:30pm.
    • Hanging around outside the British Council where young Sri Lankan gays go to study English.
    • Havelock Town
        Foot path next to the Isipatana grounds. You may need a friend to show you this location. After 6:30pm. This is a narrow path leading from one road to another but hardly used at that time because it's dark. You can see people walking and most of them are gay fun seekers.
    • Majestic City Shopping Mall
        Galle Rd. Main lounge and facilities. Majestic City super market lobby area, 2/F and 3/F. Wait for an invitation. 10:30-11:30am, 2:30-3:30pm, and 6-7:15pm are busiest.
    • Mount Lavinia Beach
        Very good location with several hot spots. Gays will signal. Best times are 6:30-9:30pm.


Restaurants and Cafes

    • Barefoot (contemporary international) UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2011
        See listing under Shops. Excellent food and service in a beautiful oasis.
    • The Gallery Café (contemporary international) UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2011
        2 Alfred House Rd, 011-258-2162. Housed in the former offices of famous gay Sri Lankan architect, Geoffrey Bawa, this popular venue is a must-see, both for the tropical modern architecture and the for the rare chance to see a nude male photo by another famous gay Sri Lankan, Lionel Wendt, on display (sadly enough) in the men's room. Wendt, who died in 1944, was (among his many talents and interests) a pioneer of the modern male nude, celebrating his Sri Lankan subjects rather than focusing on western ideals of masculine beauty. Good food, though expensive by Sri Lankan standards. Excellent service.


Shops

    • Barefoot UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2011
        706 Galle Rd, Colombo 3, 011-258-9305. All the best local arts, crafts, books, and colorful hand woven fabrics and fashions collected together in a charming heritage setting, in a compound including gallery and excellent restaurant.



Galle

General Information

    Galle (pronounced "Gaul"), in the southern part of the island, is one of Asia's fantastic heritage destinations, yet is largely off the tourist path so you can still feel like you've made the discovery on your own.

    The Old Town and 16th century Fort are full of atmosphere and romance -- especially beautiful to walk around in the cool of the late afternoon -- filled with heritage colonial buildings and incredible art deco villas.

    The atmosphere is very relaxed and the people are friendly. There are plenty of shops and cafés in the Fort catering for a variety of tastes. Unsurprisingly, a number of longtime gay expats have chosen to retire in Galle. The beach of Unawatuna is also close by.


Popular Spots

Accommodations


Massage & Spas for Men

      THE SPA Ahangama UTOPIA VERIFIED DEC 2012
        Sri Visudharama Rd, 077-038-9895, 091-228-2884, email. Located in the lovely seaside village of Ahangama, 20 minutes south of Galle between Unawatuna and Mirissa. Gay-friendly spa set in a private tropical garden. The Spa offers a variety of massage and beauty treatments including aromatherapy, ayurveda and Swedish relaxation. Young and well-trained male therapists. Their reasonable rate includes use of the tropical swimming pool. Poolside snacks and drinks are available. Please phone for an appointment. Utopia Member Discount


Meeting Places

    • Take a stroll along the Fort wall at sunset to add to your collection of warm, tropical smiles.


Restaurants and Cafes

    • Ramparts Hotel
        Dining room on 1/F overlooking the ocean is perfect for a cheap meal and a beer, for lunch or dinner.


Shops

    • Barefoot
        41 Pedlar St, +94 91-222-6299. Sister branch of the fantastic Colombo shopper's paradise. Pick up a colorful sarong for your evening promenade along the fort walls.



Kandy

General Information

    Former royal city high in the verdant hills of central Sri Lanka.

    The population of Kandy is over 100,000 (that's more than 4,000 Utopians).


Popular Spots

Attractions

    • Kandy is a great place to see spectacularly attired male dancers and musicians performing a variety of Sri Lankan dance traditions.

    • Temple of the Tooth
        Dress appropriately (long pants or skirts) for this sacred spot and UNESCO world heritage site, unless you want to rent an overpriced sarong.


Meeting Places

    • Around Kandy lake. Pass the boat house and walk towards Hotel Suisse. Gays hang out here and try to act discreetly.
    • Railway tracks close to the public bus stand. 6:45pm-9:30pm. Be careful.



Negombo / Migamuwa -- area code (94-31)

General Information

    Negombo, the only city in Sri Lanka with relaxed, everyday gay life, is a peaceful oceanside resort just 15 minutes drive north from Colombo's international airport. Budget airlines like Air Asia offer unbelievably low priced flights from hubs like Kuala Lumpur and Bangkok, making this an easy-breezy beach get-away. With tropical island pace of life, seaside dining and bars, extraordinarily friendly locals and gay-only resorts, its become a favorite holiday destination for jet-setting regional gays looking for a weekend retreat or long-stay holiday.

    The population of Negombo is about 130,000 (that's over 5,000 Utopians).


Travel Services

    Holiday Houseboys UTOPIA VERIFIED MAY 2014
      Email. Select a personal tour guide to show you around the city. Speaking the local language, your guide will look after your safety and welfare, as well as ensure that you get the best deals and local flavor. He does the bargaining for you, carries your shopping, and makes sure you won't get ripped off. He will schedule each day based on your personal interests. Holiday Houseboys is all about getting the most out of your holiday.


Popular Spots

Accommodations


Bars and Clubs

    • Rodeo Bar (mixed) UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2013
        Some gay patrons.
    • Serendip (mixed) UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2013
        Beach disco bar with a DJ on Fri and Sat nights is the current hot spot (2011).


Massage for Men

    • Body Zone UTOPIAN VERIFIED NOV 2012
        331/1, Poruthota Beach Rd, Kotchikade, 077-356-3201. Gay-friendly spa.


Meeting Places

    • Along the main street between Lords and King Coconut at night. UTOPIA VERIFIED AUG 2013
    • The beach from in front of La Dolce Vita up to the Jetwing hotels, especially Sunday afternoons and after dark. UTOPIA VERIFIED AUG 2013
    • Middle class, educated gays in Negombo meet online, especially on GayRomeo, LankaLove, and ManJam UTOPIA VERIFIED AUG 2013.
    • Negombo Bus Terminal, after 7:30pm until late.


Restaurants and Cafes

    • Aria (international) UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2013
        St Lachlan Hotel, 25 St Anthony's Lane (in the alley leading to Gomez Place and Dickman Resort), 750-0770. The dining room at this tropical modern boutique hotel offers reasonably good dining in a relaxed, casual atmosphere (although the antlers are rather disconcerting and out of place with the rest of the breezy decor). Service works hard to meet your special requests. Prices are reasonable. Try the traditional watalappan, a nearly black pudding made from coconut cream, cardamom, and jaggery (palm sugar).
    • Bijou (Swiss cuisine) UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2013
        Great food and service. Very friendly owner and good prices.
    • Dolce Vita (Italian Coffee shop) UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2013
        Portuhota Rd, Ettukala. Enter through the driveway beside the Sea-Sands Guesthouse. Gay-friendly. Good tiramusu, baked goods and gelato. Breezy terrace with a fantastic view right beside the beach. A perfect place to watch the sunset. Their crispy pizza is good. The cole slaw was, as the waiter warned, inedible.
    • Jetwing Blue (Sri Lankan breakfast) UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2013
        Ethukale, 227-9000. If you want to try a large selection of traditional Sri Lankan food, splurge on the breakfast buffet at this gorgeous, Asian modern 4-star boutique hotel. Sit at your table with an unspoiled view of the best stretch of beach in Negombo, watching the colorful sails of the catamarans as fishermen set sail for the morning catch. Try the bowl-shaped "hoppers," a crispy fried pancake made from rice flour, add an egg, shaved coconut, spicy chutney or fragrant sambal to taste. Noodle-shaped hoppers make perfect nests for a variety of curries, lentils or dahls. Fresh tropical fruit and vegetable juices are chilling on ice. Crusty breads, Wood Apple jam, buffalo curd with a drizzle of treacle, banana and butter cake all make a perfect compliment for strong Ceylon breakfast tea.
    • Lords (western and Sri Lankan) UTOPIA VISITED AUG 2013
        Portuhota Rd, Ettukala. Funky, arty open air restaurant with gallery. Western and Sri Lankan food served with popular Australian wines. Gay-owned.



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